“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”
What is EMDR?
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a form of therapy that helps people heal from trauma or other distressing life experiences. EMDR therapy has been extensively researched and has demonstrated effectiveness for trauma.
About EMDR Therapy
Our brains have a natural way to recover from traumatic memories and events. This process involves communication between the amygdala (the alarm signal for stressful events), the hippocampus (which assists with learning, including memories about safety and danger), and the prefrontal cortex (which analyzes and controls behavior and emotion). While many times traumatic experiences can be managed and resolved spontaneously, they may not be processed without help. Stress responses are part of our natural fight, flight, or freeze instincts. When distress from a disturbing event remains, the upsetting images, thoughts, and emotions may create feelings of overwhelm, of being back in that moment, or of being “frozen in time.” EMDR therapy helps the brain process these memories and allows normal healing to resume. The experience is still remembered, but the fight, flight, or freeze response from the original event is resolved.”
How is EMDR different from other therapies?
EMDR therapy does not require talking in detail about the distressing issue, or homework between sessions. EMDR, rather than focusing on changing the emotions, thoughts, or behaviors resulting from the distressing issue, allows the brain to resume its natural healing process. EMDR therapy is designed to resolve unprocessed traumatic memories in the brain. Part of the therapy includes alternating eye movements, sounds, or taps. For many clients, EMDR therapy can be completed in fewer sessions than other psychotherapies.
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a psychotherapy approach developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro. It was created to help people heal from trauma or adversities such as issues of abuse, bullying, domestic violence, grief/loss, attachment wounds, abandonment, PTSD, and many other complicated life issues.
EMDR therapy is now validated as an evidence-based approach and included in SAMHSA (the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) and the National Registry of Evidence-Based Programs and Practices. In addition, EMDR therapy has been validated by over 20 randomized controlled clinical trials.
EMDR therapy integrates elements of many traditional psychological orientations and is based on the adaptive information processing model (AIP). The AIP model hypothesizes that there is an inherent information processing system in the brain that gets blocked when traumatic or adverse events occur.
These systems cause these events to get locked in the brain with the original picture, sounds, thoughts, feelings, and body sensations. Whenever a reminder of the traumatic or adverse event comes up, those pictures, thoughts, feelings, and sensations continue to be triggered.
According to Dr. Shapiro, many emotional problems and disorders are manifestations of these unprocessed traumatic memories that are stored in the brain. EMDR therapy works on helping the brain reprocess these traumatic memories. As a result, emotional and psychological disorders are alleviated.
EMDR therapy has been used with children and adolescents with a wide variety of emotional and psychological problems including PTSD, anxiety, phobias, depression, attachment disorders, and more. The California Evidence-Based Clearinghouse for Child Welfare has now accepted EMDR therapy as an evidence-based approach for children. I also utilize Attachment Focused and Resource Tapping forms of EMDR.
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From “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, and Parent”
- Cultivating Authenticity: Letting Go of What People Think
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- Not listening: Not paying attention to or ignoring the other person’s communications.
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- Emergency: 911
- 24-Hour Crisis Line: (800) 479-3339
- San Diego Warm Line: 800-930-9276
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1 (800) 799-7233
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1 (800) 273-TALK (8255)
- National Hopeline Network: 1-800-SUICIDE (800) 784-2433
- Lifeline Crisis Chat (Online Live Messaging): http://www.crisischat.org/
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- Self-Harm Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT 1 (800) 366-8288
- Family Violence Helpline: 1 (800) 996-6228
- Planned Parenthood Hotline: 1 (800) 230-PLAN (7526)
- American Association of Poison Control Centers: 1 (800) 222-1222
- National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependency Hope Line: 1 (800) 622-2255
- National Crisis Line - Anorexia and Bulimia: 1 (800) 233-4357
- LGBT Hotline: 1 (888) 843-4564
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- Suicide Prevention: http://suicideprevention.wikia.com
- Teen Line Info: https://teenlineonline.org
- Child Abuse Hotline: (800) 344-6000
- Elder Abuse Hotline: (800) 510-2020
- Domestic Violence, Rape/Sexual Assault Hotline: (858) 272-1767
- Crime Victims Hotline: (619) 688-9200
- Battered Women’s Services (24-Hour Hotline): (619) 234-3164
- Calm: (You can use the free version without entering a credit card) https://www.calm.com
- Drive Time Devotions: http://drivetimedevotions.com
- Daily Hope Devotional:
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- Mindful: https://www.mindful.org
- Tapping Solution: https://www.thetappingsolutionapp.com
- Louise Hay Affirmations: http://supermindapps.com
- Sleep Pillow: https://pillow.app
- Relax Melodies: https://www.relaxmelodies.com
- Mindful Meditation
- I am - Daily Affirmations: https://monkeytaps.net
- Clear Fear: https://www.clearfear.co.uk
- Brené Brown, PhD: https://brenebrown.com/
This is the website of Brené Brown, the developer of The Daring Way™ and Rising Strong™ curriculum. She is a researcher on vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. She focuses on authenticity and living a full life.
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- Just One Thing Free Newsletter – Dr. Rick Hanson: https://www.rickhanson.net/writings/just-one-thing/
Just One Thing is a free e-newsletter that suggests a simple practice each week that will bring you more joy, more fulfilling relationships, and more peace of mind and heart. These practices are grounded in brain science, positive psychology, and contemplative training.
- Daily Audio Bible: https://dailyaudiobible.com
- 25 Oprah Quotes That Have All the Wisdom You'll Ever Need: https://www.oprahmag.com/life/g23429862/oprah-quotes/
- Research on ADHD and L-Theanine
- San Diego County Self-Help Guide to Community Resources
- Free Meditations: chopracentermeditation.com
- Helping Survivors of Sexual Abuse & Assault: helpingsurvivors.org
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